This article is a short observation post about witnessing various accounts of sex tourism in Thailand, something it has been the case for hundreds of years. But there’s an even darker side, the underage sex tourism, and I witnessed just that.

There is a grotesque paradigm I saw all over Thailand; amongst the Buddhist temples, cafés, tuk tuks, street food stalls, western food joints, and drunk tourists that are everyday imagery — throngs of old farts with a gluttonous hunger for young Thai girls are bubbling up everywhere from some mysterious putrid cesspool.

It was in a back alley beyond the Chiang Mai Night Market that I observed a stark example of this.

I had just gotten my first hair cut in a year in a Thai salon; a small place tucked under a Jenga-like stack of apartments that threatened to topple at any moment on a winding back road. But there were Thai people in this hole in the wall salon, and one thing I’ve learned is to trust where the Thais go (for the most part).

The trim up to my ever-growing mop top was accompanied by a thirty-minute head scrub and massage, something I would have totally paid the 150 baht cost for alone. With a “Kap Kun Krap!” I was back out into the world feeling fresh and revitalized.

But soon I’d feel dirty.

I spotted a heard of saggy seals now flapping about in a nearby café. On my way to get the haircut I had passed by this same café; it was quiet with a nice glass table on the porch, wooden chairs with floral bum pillows, and “Nous parlons français” under the “Welcome” sign. Empty yet inviting.

Now, this café was like some rock that blubbery animal-like people had staked their claim in.

Rotund older white male (70?), grey hair, hotdog fingers, greasy red cheeks, stained shirt struggling to contain his belly button from a peekaboo, flopped back in chair like lazy seal — Young Thai girl (14+?), floral dress (non-revealing) sits perched on his knee wih a forced smile as the other fat seals, “ARF” back and forth, mostly about things that would make a pervert blush. Their gullets jiggling all the way.

The shop owners and employees stand in the background politely with a smile and nod and laugh when the seals laugh. The big greasy seal with the young Thai girl on his knee caresses her leg and looks at her like she is a baby back rib buffet. Finger lickin’ good.

Are you comfy on daddy’s lap?” He managed to grumble out of his pie-hole at the Thai girl, sounding winded by the energy it took to spout the sentence that piece of shit probably waited 40 perverted years to say.

An eruption of gullet-jiggling laughter by all of the seals followed.

By then I had passed by, given one look back in disbelief, and walked back to my hostel to rinse the filth off with a cold shower. This wasn’t her father. This wasn’t an of age girl that chose to be there. This was privileged white men who had come to Thailand to be predators and take advantage of having money and the fact that Thai people don’t like to lose face by accusing a foreigner.

All because our currency is superior than theirs” a Scotsman from the hostel I was staying at stated in dismay.

We had just passed by a lamppost in the Chiang Mai night market with a sticker that read, “Real Men Don’t Buy Girls” which reminded me of that morning’s events.

Real men don’t buy girls. Filthy animals do. And buying may not even involve money; status, power, and country of origin are seen used by these aging disgraces for human beings to pull in young Thais. Girls and boys.

Except this is nothing new. A few people on my Facebook post that summarized this observation stated, “Nothing new. I remember it in the 80’s – the girl is probably younger than you think.

Even some told me, “It’s been going on for hundreds of years. How can you insult the family for doing that when maybe they have no other way to make a living?

Wait, what? Really?

I’ve met younger Thais that have started their own food stands from scratch, and much more. These things aren’t usually a choice for someone, it’s often forced. When I visited a border town between Thailand and Myanmar, we heard plenty of stories of Burmese families being allowed to stay on a farm to work, only to have the children stolen and sold to sex slavery.

Take those ping-pong shows, for example, one of the many things you shouldn’t do in Bangkok. That popular tourist attraction in Bangkok where you watch girls shoot ping-pong balls out of their, you guessed it, at targets. The thing you fail to overlook before going for a laugh or kicks is most of those performers kidnapped and forced to learn this starting under the age of 10.

Maybe my observation was me being naïve and hopeful that she was not younger than that. I know she didn’t look of age. But it isn’t anything new — this pedophilia tourism where men come to southeast Asian countries and poach underage girls or boys from family run establishments like bars or cafés; the families don’t do anything to disrupt business so they allow this groping to happen.

On a songtheaw ride (taxi truck) in Chiang Mai, I had another stomach churning experience. An old Englishman who had to be close to 80+ hopped in the back and dragged on a younger Thai teen. He decided to tell me about how his 3rd wife didn’t know about this one, but he’s been coming to Thailand for decades to get some of the “young flavors” and cackled and rubbed her leg as she sat awkwardly beside him. He licked his lips and adjusted his dentures and I got out.

Why is sex tourism in Thailand a thing? And why is underage sex tourism a thing there? Because they can get away with it. Because some people deep down are despicable human beings that, when given the opportunity to do something vile they never would do at home, take it. At home, they may seem like a normal guy or family man, but they obviously have some deep down dark and sickening secret fetish they desire to live out in Thailand.

Even if it’s been historically the norm in Thailand for a century or more, it doesn’t make an any less disturbing to see. Not toward the Thais, but toward those men who partake in this.

DON’T FORGET TO READ: 24 Do’s and Don’ts in Bangkok


  1. Noor - Desert to Jungle January 3, 2014 at 6:23 am

    I don’t know what to add, Ryan, you’ve summed it up well. I’ve not seen this going on in CM but then I’m not out and about in town at night very often.

    I was complaining about it in general terms to somebody one time and they said ‘oh, you’ll get used to it’. Well, guess what? I don’t want to get used to it. Who knows if the girl you saw was trafficked from a neighbouring country and was a slave, or a Thai girl working out of desperation and poverty or what. Whatever it is, it’s horrible.

    1. JustChuckinIt - Site Author January 17, 2014 at 2:37 am

      I feel the same exact way Noor…I don’t want to get used to it. It seems to be something that has been going on for hundreds of years, and I wish there was a way to change things somehow.

  2. Maria January 3, 2014 at 9:16 am

    Kudos for taking this subject on and I love the opening photo.

    1. JustChuckinIt - Site Author January 17, 2014 at 2:38 am

      Thank you Maria! I haven’t seen the topic talked much about and felt the need to bring it up…I saw that photo and instantly saw the resemblance =P

  3. Derek January 4, 2014 at 2:56 am

    Yeah, welcome to Asia. It’s the same way in Vietnam. And the Philippines. And others. There are some cities where the ladies and even teens will literally maul anyone under 40, just because they are white and young.

    Sure, there are many different excuses and explanations for this, both on behalf of the lady and the foreigner. But the trend has been around for decades and unfortunately doesn’t appear to be going anywhere…

    Although you may scoff at the sight of it (I most certainly did at first five years ago) eventually you will not so much get used to it but rather grow numb to it, if that makes sense…

    1. JustChuckinIt - Site Author January 17, 2014 at 2:43 am

      Yeah Derek, I’ve heard a ton about it happening in other countries as well. I fear for myself growing numb to this sort of thing. I know her and her family might have to do this to survive, but there has to be a way to go about providing some option other than child prostitution. Or just in general older tourists having the mindset that Thailand is a playground of perversion.

  4. Susan January 4, 2014 at 8:34 pm

    How very sad.

  5. Pingback: Backpacks and Bunkbeds 10 epic travel blogs I shall be reading in 2014 » Backpacks and Bunkbeds

  6. Toni January 9, 2014 at 8:48 pm

    I saw this so much throughout Thailand that sadly it tainted my memories of it a little.

    I remember one night going to a bar and I had a great night meeting new people but the next time I went it seemed like it was full of Western a*holes and Thai women and I left so quickly because it felt so dirty and wrong.

    Sadly I’m not sure what the solution to this is but I really wish there was one! :s

    1. JustChuckinIt - Site Author January 17, 2014 at 2:46 am

      I feel you Toni…definitely opened my eyes to a seedier part of tourism, and ever since I’ve been trying to figure out just how one could go about escaping that and still being able to survive. There is one big street in Chiang Mai leading to the night market where its all Thai girls and ladyboys caked in makeup stroking the shoulders of old pervs.

  7. Carmen January 15, 2014 at 8:56 am

    So sad. I haven’t been but have heard a lot about this. My husband went and he really hated this aspect – he found it so disturbing.
    We are in Dominica at the moment (in the Caribbean) and unfortunately there’s a lot of local underage sex. And what I mean by that is older men praying on young girls and then buying them KFC / phone credit to keep them happy.
    It’s awful.

    1. JustChuckinIt - Site Author January 17, 2014 at 2:56 am

      Wow Carmen. I guess this kind of thing happens all over the world. What a damn shame. It isn’t the families or the girls that I write negatively about, it is the older men who travel to other countries and rape their culture and people. It’s something I just can’t turn a blind eye to, and had to write about it.

  8. Colleen Brynn January 18, 2014 at 4:52 pm

    Yeah… this is a terrible practice. And it’s even more terrible that it’s somehow accepted – in the sense that it has been going on for so long and it’s considered the norm. It’s such a shame…

    1. JustChuckinIt January 22, 2014 at 12:51 pm

      Yes Colleen, I agree. It’s a shame this is such an age old practice…

  9. The Hopeless Wanderer January 23, 2014 at 1:09 pm

    Just stumbled upon your blog and I totally dig it! Just wanted you to know. 😉

    1. JustChuckinIt - Site Author January 25, 2014 at 3:24 am

      Glad you like it! Thank you so much and hope you come back again!

  10. Alexis October 6, 2014 at 2:47 am

    I totally put those stickers up! So cool to see them in a post from someone who saw them there!

  11. Parul Sharma December 29, 2014 at 3:13 am

    That sticker should be distributed all around the country especially at the airports, hell I’ll put it on the visa. What is it with these men I don’t even understand. They would be the first ones to draw blood if anybody did that to their daughters but seriously in another culture it’s OK.

    I know it’s not OK, I am sure every passerby knows it is not. In India if I tell people I want to visit Thailand, it is always snickers and never has anyone talked about food or countryside or the national parks it is always slimy giggles.

    I would love to see Thailand government make a stand on this, saying it is better than 80’s is stupid.

    Anyways awesome post!!


Leave A Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *